Are You Feeling Singled Out

Being single is an exciting time of life: late nights out with friends, coffee dates and new experiences. But being single also brings new challenges. When everyone else around you is getting married, starting new jobs, or finding what direction they’re going in life, it’s easy to feel left out. But God tells us we were born to stand outand during this stage in your life, God has singled you out for a purpose. So, whatever stage of singleness you are currently in, God can - and wants - to use you!

In fact, the Bible tells us quite a bit about being single and how we can live out our purpose. For example, in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, Paul writes: “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world... and his interests are divided.” Being single means we can dedicate more time to learning about ourselves and exploring the many ways God can work in our lives. How can you take advantage of your time being single? Here are some ideas:

Attend events and activities

Being single often means you have flexible time. Take advantage and attend different events that will help you meet a variety of people and learn new things. For example, Saddleback has ahiking ministry, atriathlon teamandmenandwomenonly events. Of course, you can always join theSingles Serviceand hang out with all the Saddleback Singles community! It’s a great way to meet new people and make friends!

Start a ministry or group

 Are you interested in an activity that isn’t a ministry yet? Consider starting a ministry orsmall groupof your own. Chances are there are people you’ll meet after church or at the singles events that are interested in the same things you are!

Take a class

God also wants us to use our time being single to grow. Use this opportunity to take a class! For example, Saddleback hasfinancial classes,Zumba classes,andrelationship workshops. Looking inward and growing spiritually will help prepare you for your next stage in life - whatever that may be.

Volunteer your time

There are so many opportunities to volunteer at church and in your community. Think of something you are passionate about and chances are there are opportunities around you to serve.Food pantrysupport,tutoring, and campus beautification days are just a few ideas to get you started! Feeling adventurous? Being single sometimes means you’re more available to travel. You might take advantage of this time in your life and go on a local or international mission trip.

However God plans to use you in your singleness, be open to hearing his voice, because He“chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you” (John 15:16-17). Trust that God will bless your journey of singleness and along the way, you’ll not only make new friends, you’ll learn more about yourself and God’s plan for you. Whether your goal is getting married, remarried or just making friends, don’t be afraid to be singled out!