Women's Ministry Blog

Choose to be Joyful

Tue, 15 May 2012 17:00:00 GMT

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�But the fruit of the Spirit is love, JOY, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.� Galatians 5:22-23

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FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT - JOY..AS DEFINED BY CLAIRE, AGE 11

My Mom asked me if I knew the difference between happiness and joy.� We talked about it at church one time, so I had already thought about it a little.� In church they said joy comes from inside my heart, because God loves me, and that it doesn't depend on feeling happy about what's going on at home or at school.� One time I was really disappointed because my soccer team didn't win our Cup tournament.� I think we were better than the other team, but we lost in the championship game.� Where's the joy?� I got to play soccer with my friends!� I even scored a goal!� Even though I wasn't happy about the game, the smile on my face showed everyone the joy in my heart. �

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I think joy is being able to be happy even when things don't turn out the way you want them to.� Sometimes it's easy for me to get sad or disappointed when things don't go my way, but I just try to forget about it.� I try to remember all the things around me that are fun and good.� That's what joy means to me.

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit."� Romans 14:17�

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"If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete."� John 15:10-11

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

How do you act when you are sad or disappointed?�
When things don't go your way, do you try to forget about it or do you let it bother you for awhile?
Claire says joy is being happy even when things don't always work out.� How do you define joy?
Read the Memory Verse below.� What reason does it give for filling our lives with joy?
Name three great things in your life.things that fill your life with joy!

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

The second Fruit of the Spirit is joy, but it's easy to mistake happiness for joy.� I heard a pastor describe the difference something like this:� "Happiness is an outward emotion based on circumstance, but joy is internal.� It comes from God." So regardless of our circumstances, we can choose to be joyful.� Having a choice, or exercising our free-will, is a very powerful and spiritual path!

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The bible doesn't say our lives will be free of pain, disappointment, or sorrow.� The bible doesn't tell us we will understand the trials we may face.� But in John 15 the bible does say, "If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love.I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete." Our joy can be made complete by obeying God's commands, remaining in His love, and allowing His joy to be present in our daily lives.� Sounds easy, right?� No way!� I have faced some personal challenges where I struggled to find joy in the midst of the crisis.� Being happy seemed impossible, almost laughable, but I finally realized having a joyful attitude was the better goal to strive for.� I couldn't control the circumstances, but I chose to stand firm in obeying God's commands so I could sense His love and joy in my heart. �

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My life will always have trials and challenges, but I'm getting better at choosing to use them as an opportunity to build my character, to grow my faith, and to experience joy as Christ intended.� In the book of James, the bible talks about the importance of doing just that!� ^"Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.� For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow." (James 1:2-3)� �

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A dear friend once said, "The unbearable is the beginning of the curve to joy."� Choose to be joyful!� Allow your unbearable moments to bring you closer to experiencing God's joy in your heart.

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MEMORY VERSE

"The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy."� Psalm 126:3

Faith Is A Choice

Tue, 08 May 2012 17:00:00 GMT

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CHILDLIKE FAITH..by ADAM, AGE 11

We're Flyer hockey fans, so my dad took me to watch the Philadelphia Flyers play the Chicago Blackhawks in game three of the 2010 Stanley Cup finals.� The game went into overtime, so while they were preparing the ice I left my seat to go to the restroom.� Since I've been to games before, I knew the stadium pretty well.� Dad stayed in the stands and yelled to me as I left, "Hurry, Adam, you don't want to miss the winning goal!� I'll be right here when you get back."�

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My favorite player, Claude Giroux, scored the game winning goal in overtime to beat Chicago 4-3 while I was racing back to my seat.� The Flyers lost the first two games, so the place went crazy when Giroux scored for the win!� At first I was afraid; how was I ever going to find my dad in the crowd?� And I knew there was no way dad would be able to see me among all these grown-ups.� Then I remembered his promise, "I'll be right here when you get back."� So I relaxed and just kept moving back down toward our seats.� When dad saw me heading his way, his face broke out in a huge smile.�

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Dad gave me a big hug and a high-five for the Flyers and their win!� I told him about all the people rushing through the arena.� Dad agreed, "The stands were clearing out pretty fast.� Were you worried I wouldn't find you?"� It was my turn to agree; "At first I was, but then I remembered what you told me.� You said you'd be right here when I got back, and you were!� I knew I could count on you!"

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

�"Faith makes us sure of what we hope for and gives us proof of what we cannot see. �It was their faith that made our ancestors pleasing to God.� But without faith no one can please God. We must believe that God is real and that he rewards everyone who searches for him."� Hebrews 11:1-2, 6� (CEV)

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"But we live by faith, not by what we see."� 2 Corinthians 5:7� (CEV)

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Adam's first response was to be afraid.� Discuss what helped Adam overcome his fear.
Read 2 Corinthians 5:7 above.� Talk about how this bible verse relates to Adam's story.
The kind of faith and trust Adam had in his dad's promise is the same kind of faith and trust we should have in Jesus.� Discuss what this means to you.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

We've all heard the descriptive term "childlike faith" at one time or another.� Most often, people equate childlike faith with naivety; trusting without the experience or wisdom to know any different.� But childlike faith is not about innocence, it's all about dependence!� Just as children are innately dependent on adults to provide for them and meet their needs, God desires us to be dependent on Him.� Sounds logical, but what exactly does that look like in real life?

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In the Old Testament, scripture illustrates servants of God who willingly stepped out in faith to obediently follow His directive.� The story of Noah is a perfect example of one man's unquestioning faith.� "Noah did everything just as God commanded him."� Genesis 6:22 (NIV )� Noah spent years building an ark for an unprecedented flood when the only person forecasting rain was God!� Was this childlike faith, or a humble obedience and reliance on God's command?

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I'm a visual person, so coming from my perspective I was still a little fuzzy on the whole "what does faith look like" thing.� That is until I re-read scripture and allowed it to resonate within my soul.� The bible is consistent when it describes faith as a relationship of conviction versus something to be seen or touched.� I studied biblical translations of Hebrews 11:1-6 and 2 Corinthians 5:7.� Now I get it!� Faith is not a tangible object, but rather an emotion to be experienced!� When I choose to live by faith, I'm choosing to believe in Christ and the truth of His salvation.� Is this course of action a childlike expression of faith, or an educated decision to trust Him and follow a spiritual trajectory for my life?

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Faith will always be a choice.� Unlike biblical characters who had the benefit of walking with Jesus and witnessing His miracles, our faith journey is a little more ambiguous. � But it's by this faith, in lieu of eyewitness encounters, that we live our lives and conduct ourselves in a manner that is pleasing to God. � So what does faith look like?� In Galatians 5:6b, Paul gave a visual of faith in action:� "What is important is faith expressing itself in love."� Quite simply, living out our faith should be noticeable to others in the form of loving acts of kindness and grace.� Childlike in nature?� Hardly.� Learning to live with dependence on God shows remarkable spiritual maturity and carries immeasurable, eternal rewards!

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MEMORY VERSE:

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."� Hebrews 11:1-6� (KJV)

Goals Require Effort

Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:00:00 GMT

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HARD WORK IS SELDOM EASY.... BY MADDIE, AGE 7

I've been going to gymnastics since I was 3 years old.� My mom signed me up just for fun, but I loved it right away.� I love tumbling more than anything else!� When I turned 5, mom had me join a club with a Junior Olympic training team.� I started to compete a lot more.� Right now I compete at level 6, but I'm training really hard to get to level 7. �

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Most people don't realize how hard gymnasts train.� I'm at the gym everyday, except on Sunday.� Sometimes I train for over 5 hours at a time.� It's tiring, but I still love it!� Sometimes I can't have Friday night sleepovers because I have to be at the gym early on Saturday morning.� But I hope to be on the Olympic team someday, so it will all be worth it.�

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Dad says I'm learning an important life lesson while I'm having fun in the gym.� I'm learning how hard work and determination help you reach a goal.� One thing's for sure, if I keep training hard and moving up in the competitions, I'll have a better chance of competing at nationals and being selected for the Olympic team.� There are a lot of girls who train for the Olympics at my club.� Dad says only a few of us will be Olympians, but he and Mom think I could be one of those lucky girls!� It's a big goal, something really big to aim for, but I don't mind training hard to help make my dream come true!� But even if I'm never in the Olympics, I'm sure having fun along the way!

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"No matter how much you want,�laziness won't help a bit,�but hard work will reward you�with more than enough."� Proverbs 13:4

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"I run toward the goal, so that I can win the prize of being called to heaven. This is the prize that God offers because of what Christ Jesus has done."� Philippians 3:14

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Training to compete in the Olympics is an ambitious dream.� Talk about aspirations you may have for your life.
Working to reach a goal is seldom easy.� Name two qualities that are important while striving to reach a goal.
Read Philippians 3:14 above.� Discuss the importance of the goal and the prize mentioned in scripture.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

We often ask children and youth, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"� Perhaps that well-meaning inquiry may miss the mark.� Conceivably, the more relevant question may very well be, "What kind of person do you want to be when you grow up?"� Although changes in your vocation or place of employment may be frequent, one thing remains constant; you have to live with yourself.� Your life choices reflect your character while your reputation often precedes you.� The reality of a Christian life is this; we're able to enjoy living in His peaceful presence when we keep it right with God.� And, believe me, that's hard work!� Living out biblical principles is seldom easy, but the prize that God offers is well worth it!

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I love the analogy found in Lysa Terkeurst's book, Made to Crave, as she admires her neighbors garden.� See if you can relate.� "(My neighbor) has a garden because he invests time and energy to make it.� He didn't wish it into being.� He didn't hope it into being.� He didn't just wake up one day and find that a garden of glorious blooms had miraculously popped up from the dirt.� No.� He worked for it.� He sacrificed for it.� Day after day.� Plant by plant.� It took effort, intentionality, sweat equity, and determination.� Then it took time and commitment before he ever saw any fruit from his labor."� This observation drew her to conclude, "I want the flowers but not the work.� Isn't that the way it is with many things in life - we want the results but have no desire to put in the work required?"� Where are you investing your time and energy?� Are you expecting significant results in your personal or professional life without putting in the effort required?

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Just as an Olympian athlete must be committed to rigorous training, we must intentionally train our mind to follow God's directive for living.� It takes effort and determination to tend to the spiritual side of life.� Pastor Rick Warren once said, "The grass isn't greener on one side of the fence or the other.� The grass is greenest where ever you water it!"� How green is the grass in the garden of your heart?� In your relationships?� In your walk with the Lord?� Plant the seed of His presence in your life.� Water it and watch it grow.� Cultivate God's word in your heart, allowing the Holy Spirit to take root deep within your soul. �

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What kind of person do you want to be?� Strive to be a Godly individual that can recognize, welcome, and enjoy the fruitful blessings that Christ so willingly gives!�

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MEMORY VERSE

"I am the vine, and you are the branches. If you stay joined to me, and I stay joined to you, then you will produce lots of fruit. But you cannot do anything without me. Stay joined to me and let my teachings become part of you. Then you can pray for whatever you want, and your prayer will be answered."� John 15:5,7

Guide My Steps

Tue, 20 Mar 2012 17:00:00 GMT

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SLIPPING OFF THE PATH.... BY TOM, FATHER OF THREE

My life has always been pretty carefree; I have a loving wife, healthy kids, and a secure job.� But all that came crashing down when we discovered our oldest daughter, Julie, was using drugs.� I began by pointing fingers - wanting someone to blame:� Who was the loser friend that introduced her to this stuff?� Then I became angry:� How could she be so careless with her life and her future?� Finally, my anger turned to guilt:� Was I somehow blind to obvious warning signs?� As I sorted through the flood of emotions, one thing became crystal clear:� my carefree life was suddenly very complicated.�

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My wife and I joined a support group and sought professional help.� It was all so helpful, but coming to terms with Julie's addiction was going to require divine intervention.� Our youth pastor, Jeremy, helped us to view Julie's lapse in judgment through the eyes of Christ.� He used scripture to illustrate the way Christ dealt with lost and hurting individuals who had slipped off the path and fallen into a personal pit of neglect or recklessness.� While my natural tendency may have been to rage and demand Julie's obedience, Jeremy directed me to pattern my response after God's loving example.� He doesn't demand our obedience, in fact it's quite the contrary; God planned and made provision for our disobedience: "But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners." (Romans 5:8)� We are extended His perfect grace - the free and unmerited favor of our loving Father.� If I'm serious about following His example, surely I could extend that same grace to my own daughter, my own flesh and blood.

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I was finally able to adopt God's design for compassion and forgiveness.� Julie would benefit from a Christ-like love to work through this crisis, and her mother and I were hand-picked for the job.� Her drug use didn't become habitual overnight, so we accepted the fact recovery would take longer, too.� Small steps took her off the path, and smaller steps still would help to bring her back home.� By the grace of God, we were able to reclaim our daughter's life and help her become drug free.� It's true: our family will never be the same.� We are stronger and more supportive than ever before!

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"If I should say, "My foot has slipped," Your lovingkindness, O Lord, will hold me up.� When my anxious thoughts multiply within me, Your consolations delight my soul."� Psalm 94:18-19

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"My child, don't reject the Lord's discipline,�and don't be upset when he corrects you. For the Lord corrects those he loves,�just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights."� Proverbs 3:11-12

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Do you know classmates that do drugs or drink alcohol?� If so, talk about the consequences of these choices.
Sometimes kids feel trapped by peer pressure or addiction and believe there's no way out.� Using bible verses, discuss how the Christian faith can offer wisdom, comfort, and encouragement.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN...

While the rate of drug use among teens and adults is staggering, countless other addictions have harmful effects, too.� Alcohol, sex, and food addictions are consistently on top ten lists.� These destructive behaviors not only take a toll on relationships, but on the body, as well.� Healthy choices and disciplined living are all part of God's plan for life. �

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Retired NFL coach and author, Tony Dungy, writes about the cycle of poor choices in his devotional book, The One Year Uncommon Life Daily Challenge:� "We know that the life God calls us to is straight ahead, that making a ninety-degree detour is clearly off track.� But that's not how we get off track. We get off track when we take a five-degree turn off the straight path.� Suddenly we're just a little bit sidetracked from where Christ wants us to go, not living as Christ wants us to live.� First there's one compromise.� Then something else.� Before we know it, we're so far off course, we can't imagine how we got there.� Of course, looking back, we can trace the path:� one small step at a time."�

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When it comes to sin, most people don't slide into a condition of moral decay overnight; invariably, one can observe the slow and damaging chain of events.� First, inclination leads to consideration.� Next, appeal or longing overrides logical thinking.� Without self-restraint, desire gives rise to action.� More often than not, morals and values are compromised in the process, so rationalization steps in to justify any wrongdoing.� It's a vicious cycle with ruinous repercussions!� Scripture explains the progression of sin this way: "Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.� These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death." (James 1:14-15)

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Small steps down the wrong path quickly take you off course.� Let's face it - your course ultimately determines your destination.� Stay on the path of righteousness by applying biblical principles to your life.� This path leads straight to heaven!

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MEMORY VERSE

"Your word is a lamp to guide my feet�and a light for my path."� Psalm 119:105

Not Just Child's Play

Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:00:00 GMT

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HIDE AND SEEK.... BY MICHAEL, AGE 13

I like hanging out with my friend, Mark, because he's a lot like me.� We like to play sports and video games - we both like going to church, too.� Mark and I signed up for church camp this summer as teen camp counselors.� We've been assigned to lead a group of 4th graders in games and activities.� Everything is pretty much scheduled for us, except we get one free afternoon to be creative and do our own thing.� We're supposed to take a bible verse and plan something to help kids memorize it.� Here's what we're thinking...

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We decided to play Hide and Seek - everyone knows that game.� But I bet a lot of kids don't realize Adam and Eve played a game kinda like it with God.� But their game of hide and seek wasn't about having fun.� They hid because they had done something wrong - they disobeyed God, and they knew it.� It's pretty silly to hide from God since He sees everything.� He knew exactly where Adam and Eve were hiding out!� This is where the "seek" part comes in.� Instead of trying to hide, Jesus wants us to look for Him.� He wants us to look and find Him from the bottom of our heart - you know, find ways to become more like Him. �

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When we're done, we'll pass around heart-shaped cookies as a treat.� Mark and I wrote out our verse on pieces of paper to hand out with each cookie: "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." � (Jeremiah 29:13)� Now when they play Hide and Seek, or even flashlight tag, they just might think about our verse.� But mostly, we hope they remember not to hide from God, but to obey Him; and to look for ways to be kind and loving like Jesus. �

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FROM THE BIBLE:

"Seek the Lord, all who are humble,�and follow his commands. �Seek to do what is right�and to live humbly."� � � Zephaniah 2:3

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"But more than anything else, put God's work first and do what he wants. Then the other things will be yours as well."� Matthew 6:33

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Read the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3.� Discuss the consequences of their disobedience to God.
Have you ever tried to hide from someone or cover up a mistake?� If so, talk about what happened.
Michael used a game to help kids remember�a bible verse.� Pick a verse and talk about ways to help you with memorization.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

There are numerous books and several internet sites that address the value of teaching children through the use of games and activities.� Many studies point to the success of hands-on learning; giving children an opportunity to participate in activities that make learning more fun and exciting.� Even the old-fashion games of tug of war and the three-legged race teach cooperation and working together to meet a goal.� In "How to Promote Children's Development Through Playing Group Games," author Rheta DeVries writes how games can be used to develop a child's inner moral conviction and to learn about appropriate interactions with others, too.� It's not surprising that church camp counselors would turn to activities and crafts to teach lessons about the core Christian beliefs of honesty and integrity - knowing right from wrong.

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But games aren't just for kids; there are books and websites dedicated to the value of teaching adults through hands-on experiences, too.� Can you say "team building?"� One internet site offered this pitch to prospective corporations:� "The Leader's Institute Team Building offers Fun Corporate Team Building Events and Teambuilding Activities!� Our Fun Team Building gets results."� The message is clear:� fun events and activities get results!� I still have my gold plated carabiner from a 1994 team building retreat.� I was inspired to succeed; I reached a record number in sales growth that year!

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In it's most basic form, Adam and Eve did play a game of Hide and Seek with God.� Their disobedience is referenced in the bible as "The Fall of Man," setting in motion man's tendency to disobey God.� But it wasn't all fun and games; they played with some pretty high stakes.� Adam and Eve were hiding from sin.� Are we so much different?� The commentary in my Life Application Bible says it best:� "The thought of two humans covered with fig leaves trying to hide from the all-seeing, all-knowing God is humorous.� How could they be so silly as to think they could actually hide?� Yet we do the same, acting as though God doesn't know what we're doing."� There's a lesson or two to be learned from their story.

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It's human nature to attempt to hide from sin, yet the bible is filled with scripture asking us to search for Him - to seek salvation through an honest relationship with Christ.� Are you hiding from sin in your life?� Are you using a flimsy fig leaf of pride in an attempt to conceal yourself from God?� Take it from Adam and Eve - don't hide out from the love of Christ!

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MEMORY VERSE

"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."� Jeremiah 29:13

Building a Life for Christ

Thu, 01 Mar 2012 16:00:00 GMT

40 DAYS IN THE WORD:� A ROCK-SOLID FOUNDATION.... BY BILL, GRANDFATHER OF 6

I enjoy reading to my grandchildren.� There's something special about snuggling up together on the couch while we explore new places through the adventures of a good book.� I like reading fairy tales, too.� The grandkids always ask me to read their favorites: "The Ugly Duckling" and "Cinderella."� Fairy tales are filled with imagination, and they teach moral lessons, too.� One of my personal favorites is "The Three Little Pigs." �

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We all know the story, right?� A mother pig sends three piglets out to live on their own.� The first pig builds his house out of straw, while the second pig uses sticks.� These homes were quick and easy to build.� The third pig builds his house out of bricks.� It was hard work to build such a sturdy house.� One evening, a hungry wolf came calling to each piglet house.� At the end of the night, one home is left standing; only the house built with bricks held up against the destructive wolf.

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When I read stories, I change the sound of my voice for each character; they all giggle when hear my little piglet voice.� In spite of all this silliness, the lesson still comes across loud and clear: the third pig was pretty smart.� His hard work and effort paid off - it actually saved his life!� I use this story to remind my grandchildren that they should build their house (their life) out of something solid, too.� I pull out my bible.� Sometimes it's easier to take the easy way out or just follow the crowd, but making good choices based on scripture is a sure way to build a rock-solid foundation for life.� I assure them, "Build your life rooted deeply in the truth and goodness of Jesus, and you'll be safe from the sly wolf of sin!"

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FROM THE BIBLE:

"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."� Proverbs 22:6

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"All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.� God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work."� 2 Timothy 3:16-17

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Bill used a fairy tale to inspire his grandchildren to be deeply rooted in biblical principles.� Is there someone in your life that inspires you to be the best you can be, too?
Take the memory verse and make it personal by inserting your name.� "Therefore, _______, hear these words of mind and put them into practice.� _______ is like a wise man who built his house on the rock."� (Matthew 7:24)� Doesn't it sound like God is speaking directly to you!�
Talk about the impact of reading the bible verse this way.� Was it more meaningful?� Did the verse seem more private?

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

When I thought about an analogy for applying God's word, "like a wise man who built his house on the rock," it brought to mind the story of "The Three Little Pigs."� That fairy tale is a great illustration for kids on the importance of hard work in building a solid foundation.� Bruno Bettelheim was a child psychologist and writer who articulated the value of fairy tales in this way.� He writes, "The fairy tale offers this promise: If you have courage and if you persist, you can overcome any obstacle, conquer any foe.� By recognizing a child's daily fears, appealing to his courage and confidence, and by offering hope, the fairy tale presents the child with a means by which he can understand the world and himself."� Let's read that again, but this time insert the bible and make it personal.� "The bible offers this promise: If you have courage and if you persist, you can overcome any obstacle, conquer any foe.� By recognizing your daily fears, appealing to your courage and confidence, and by offering hope, the bible presents us with a means by which we can understand the world and ourself." � Need I say more?

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Week five of 40 Days in the Word is all about taking scripture and making it personal.� When you insert your name into scripture, that verse becomes intimate and resonates as though God were speaking directly to you.� Here's another example:� "Whatever happens, Diane, conduct yourself in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ."� (Philippians 1:27)� When you put it that way, I feel empowered knowing how He wants me to respond in all situations.� I also realize I'll be held accountable to God himself!� Talk about being personal - I hear His voice loud and clear!

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Experience the bible in the first-person and learn from His Word - whether it's hearing God's voice by inserting your name into scripture, or walking alongside Jesus with the perspective of a real-life character from the bible - the words jump off the page right into your heart!� When you immerse yourself in the truth and goodness of His Word, you'll be building a rock-solid foundation of faith strong enough to withstand any attack from evil - even a big, bad wolf!�

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MEMORY VERSE

"Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mind and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock."� Matthew 7:24

Anger Management

Fri, 17 Feb 2012 16:00:00 GMT

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40 DAYS IN THE WORD - ANGER MANAGEMENT GOD'S WAY... A STORY ABOUT KAYLEE, AGE 10

My day started off lousy, and just kept getting worse!� I forgot my math worksheet at home, so I had to miss recess to redo it at school.� Then we had a fire drill after lunch which made our class late to the computer lab.� The next bell rang before it was my turn to log-on.� Mom picked me up after school and we raced to soccer practice.� I got kicked in the shin going for a ball. Great, now I'd be bruised and sore tonight!� By the time I got home, I was in a bad mood - a little angry, too.

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Dad made my favorite dish for dinner - spaghetti and meatballs!� I'm guessing mom told him about my bad day.� After the prayer, my little brother, Blake, reached for a slice of bread and knocked over my full glass of milk.� Now my spaghetti was swimming in milk and my jeans were soaked, too!� Before I had a chance to yell at Blake, my mom jumped up and handed a towel to him, saying, "Here, use this on the table while I get another one for Kaylee."� Then she looked at me and added, "Boy, I bet you'll be glad when this day is over.� You've had a rough one!"� I was ready to scream and cry all at the same time, but mom's kind words made me smile instead.� I loved my mom so much right then!

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Dad and I talked after dinner.� He told me how getting angry happens sometimes - how he's had some bad days, too.� Then he said he was proud of me.� Proud?� You've got to be kidding, right?� Nope.� He said, "I'm proud of you, Kaylee, because you didn't let a frustrating day get the best of you.� You could have easily lost your cool with Blake, but you didn't.� Your self-control was a good example for him, too."� I smiled after hearing those words.� I loved my dad so much right then!�

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"An angry person stirs up conflict,�and a hot-tempered person commits many sins."� Proverbs 29:22�

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"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen....Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."� Ephesians 4:29, 32

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"If you think you are being religious, but can't control your tongue, you are fooling yourself." James 1:26

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Frustration can easily lead to anger.� Talk about the source of Kaylee's frustration. �
Discuss the chain of events at dinner.� What might have happened if everyone would have given in to anger?
Read the bible verse, James 1:26, from above.� Explain what that scripture means in your own words.�

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

The method of bible study for this week is "Paraphrase It" - knowing what the bible means by being able to express scripture in your own words.� Paraphrasing is a proven technique useful in everything from contract negotiations to interpersonal relationships.� A simple restatement of someone else's words brings clarity to just about any situation - even your relationship with Christ.� After all, the bible is His spoken word - written down for our benefit.

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Let's try the paraphrase method with a bible verse:� "If you think you are being religious, but can't control your tongue, you are fooling yourself." (James 1:26)� What does this verse mean to you?� To me, it says:� If you claim to be Christian, but repeatedly speak words that hurt others, you are only kidding yourself.� Unfortunately, we are more likely to lash out in anger or speak harshly to members of our own family. � We tend to give friends or strangers a filtered response.

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Ironically, the comfortable and safe setting of home is an ideal place to teach children how to express frustration in ways that are appropriate.� And just so we're clear; adults don't always have this skill perfected either.� In the book, "Children Learn What They Live", authors Nolte and Harris write:� "Parents can strive to teach certain values, but children will inevitably absorb whatever values are transmitted through their parents' behavior, feelings, and attitudes in everyday living.� How you express and manage your own feelings becomes a model that will be remembered by your children throughout their lifetimes."� And on the subject of anger:� "As parents, we need to accept and respect our children's feelings of frustration, while maintaining rules and limits of behavior.� How we handle our own feelings of impatience, hostility, and anger is a far more powerful example to our children than what we tell them to do with theirs."

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Study scripture, repeat it in your own words, and then apply it to your life.� Start at home with members of your family by conveying God's love through your words and actions.� Demonstrate anger management God's way - pattern your home life after the peaceful example of Christ!

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MEMORY VERSE

"I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you."� Psalm 119:11

No Excuses - Just Do It

Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:00:00 GMT

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40 DAYS IN THE WORD - DO WHAT GOD SAYS....BY MASON, AGE 14

I could hardly wait to go to the orthodontist on Monday.� I've had my braces on for 18 months now and I knew I was close to getting them off.� I sat in the chair and waited patiently for my turn.� Dr. Hilgers came over to check things out.� He complimented me on brushing my teeth, he talked about the near perfect alignment, and then he asked me to bite down.� "Well, Mason," he said, "you are so close to getting these off.� I bet you're glad to hear that!� But I've got to ask you a question.� Have you been wearing your rubber-bands?"� Now I'm laying back in the chair and I'm looking up - right into his eyes!� How could I look Dr. Hilgers straight in the eye and lie?� I just couldn't, so I told him the truth.� No, I hadn't been wearing my rubber-bands.� I could tell by his smile; I only confirmed what he already knew.

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I'm sure you can figure out what happened next.� My bite was a little off, so my braces were staying on.� I was so disappointed when I left the office, so bummed to be scheduling another four week visit.� The hardest part was realizing it was all my fault - I, alone, had caused the delay.� I had no one to blame but myself.� My mom wasn't exactly thrilled either; this meant more trips to the orthodontist for her, too. �

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Ever go to church and feel the pastor is talking directly to you?� That's what happened that next Sunday.� This was the scripture in the bulletin:� "Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves.� Do what is says."� (James 1:22) � He asked us to apply that verse to our life.� I thought about my braces and those tiny rubber-bands.� All I had to do was wear them and I'd be counting the days until my braces came off.� But, I did my own thing - went against what I was asked to do - and look where that got me:� nowhere!� Then I thought about God and how many times I've done my own thing there, too.� Disappointing my mom is one thing, but disappointing Jesus is totally different!� I said a prayer before I left church, "Dear God, Help me to remember to do what I read in the bible.� Help me to become more like You.� And, while I'm asking, remind me to wear my rubber-bands, too!"

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Teach me, Lord, the way of your decrees,�that I may follow it to the end.� Give me understanding, so that I may keep your law�and obey it with all my heart."� Psalm 119:33-34

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"I pondered the direction of my life,�and I turned to follow your laws.� I will hurry, without delay,�to obey your commands."� Psalm 119:59-60

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"Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it."� James 4:17

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Can you relate to this story?� If so, discuss what happened in your life when you didn't do what was asked of you.
Re-read James 4:17.� Talk about a couple examples from God's word (the bible) that require action on your part.
Mason's prayer was simple and straight forward, just like he was talking to God.� Next time you say a prayer, pretend that God is your best friend and tell Him what's on your mind.� That's what prayer is - a private talk with God.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

We are into week three of 40 Days in the Word:� Discovering the eternal truths in the bible and then applying them in your life.� It's probably fair to assume that most people read the bible to gain knowledge concerning how to become more and more like Christ.� The Godly wisdom one acquires from bible study should ultimately show up in their words and actions.� Unfortunately, many increase their knowledge on the subject of biblical principles, but then never commit to a way of living that actually reflects what they have learned.� Posturing of this kind dates all the way back to biblical times. �

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In Hebrew history, the term Pharisee represented a deep devotion to God by living a strict religious life.� But somewhere along the way, the daily ritual of following the law took precedence over the love of obedience to God.� Many Pharisees had become self-proclaimed, religious authorities, yet rather hypocritical in their actions.� In Matthew 23:1-3, read Jesus' warning:� "Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples:�The Pharisees and the teachers of the Law are experts in the Law of Moses. So obey everything they teach you, but don't do as they do. After all, they say one thing and do something else."� Jesus cautioned His followers to avoid hypocritical practices and become a legitimate doer of the God's word.

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The book of James is a great "how to" guide with practical advice on living a genuine Christian life.� Through his writing, James reminds us that living our faith is important.� Our words should convey real love and humility, and all of us will be held accountable to live out what He says.� Don't just read the bible - study it and apply His truth.� His words have the power to transform your life!�

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MEMORY VERSE

"Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves.� Do what is says."� James 1:22

The Transforming Power of Christ

Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:00:00 GMT

40 DAYS IN THE WORD - A CHANGED LIFE... BY JUSTIN, YOUTH MINISTRY LEADER

I work with teens in my church ministry.� Youth try to portray this "got-it-together" image, but many teens don't and some hide feelings of fear and hopelessness behind a false wall of bravado.� I often hear, "If you only knew the things I've done!� How can God, let alone my family, forgive me?"� I point to Christ - He's in the business of offering forgiveness!

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In Acts, chapter 9, Luke tells the story of Saul on the road to Damascus.� Saul was a studious, Hebrew adolescent who got way off track!� Over time, the negative influences of the Pharisees fostered a devotion to man-made laws rather than the biblical laws of his upbringing.� Saul was actually traveling to Damascus to hunt down Christians for persecution when he experienced an amazing Godly transformation. "Saul kept on threatening to kill the Lord's followers. He even went to the high priest and asked for letters to the Jewish leaders in Damascus. He did this because he wanted to arrest and take to Jerusalem any man or woman who had accepted the Lord's Way."� (Acts 9:1-2)� On this journey, a blinding light from heaven would begin a chain of events toward repentance.� God's love and forgiveness changed the course of Saul's life.

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Here's this totally messed up guy persecuting Christians, yet God looked past all that and saw his potential!� After Saul's firsthand encounter with Christ, the apostle Paul (as he came to be known) spent the rest of his life serving Jesus and helping shape the history of Christianity through his missionary work.� That's some pretty heavy stuff!� I ask my teens, "Have you done anything in your life that compares to the sinful actions of Paul?"� I've yet to have someone tell me they have, and that's exactly my point.� Since Christ was able to change Paul's life, don't you think He has the power to do amazing things in your life, too? � There's no mistake too big, or a life too off track, to experience the transforming power of Christ!� Learn from Paul's example;� get it together and get right with God!

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Train a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not turn from it."� Proverbs 22:6

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"He has shown you, O man, what is good.� And what does the Lord require of you?� To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God."� Micah 6:8

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"Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them."� John 13:17

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Read the story of Saul in Acts, chapter 9, from the bible.� Pretend you are each of the characters; Saul, the men traveling with him, and Ananias.� With which character do you relate most?
How can you apply this bible story to your life?� What will you do about it?
Pause and silently pray for a relative, friend, or non-believer that could use God's transforming power in their life.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

In week two of 40 Days in the Word, Pastor Rick Warren introduced the "Picture It" method of bible study.� In this process, you picture a biblical scene and see yourself as each one of the active participants.� This practice of identifying with different characters broadens the meaning of the story and allows you to relate to each person's perspective.

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Let's take Paul's point of view. � After being surrounded by a heavenly light, hearing God's voice speak to him, and coping with blindness for three days - his sight is miraculously restored by a reluctant disciple.� These events occurred as part of Paul's remarkable encounter with Jesus.� If all that happened to me, I think I'd be transformed, too!� Paul was baptized and went on to spread the news of the gospel to many early churches.� The apostle Paul, previously called Saul of Tarsus, is remembered as one of the most influential biblical missionaries.� Studying Paul's great ministry, it's hard to imagine him as a hypocritical Pharisee who, in frenzied rage, set out to persecute Christians. � He became an amazing man of Godly character after coming face to face with our Lord.� What a powerful story of the transforming power of Christ!� Have you veered off on an immoral path?� Do you need Christ's blinding light to open your eyes to the truth of His ways? �

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Now, put yourself in Ananias' shoes.� Paul's reputation preceded him in Damascus:� "But Lord," exclaimed Ananias, "I've heard many people talk about the terrible things this man has done to the believers in Jerusalem!"� (Acts 9:13)� Putting aside his fear, scripture tells how Ananias' obedience to God led to the restoration of Paul's sight.� Imagine how affirming this experience was for Ananias; I'm guessing it served to strengthen his trust in God.� Have you ever stepped out in faith in response to God's prompting voice?� Has there been a time where trusting God required an Ananias-like obedience?

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Picture yourself walking with Christ, feel His loving presence, and open your eyes to the wonderful things in His law!

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MEMORY VERSE

"Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law."� Psalm 119:18

TRUST GOD By TRUSTING HIS WORD

Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:00:00 GMT

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40 DAYS IN THE WORD - TRUSTING GOD'S WORD... BY KELLY, AGE 16

I love to read!� I have a shelf in my room that's filled with all my childhood favorites, but it's easy to see which book was most loved.� It's a children's bible story book with a colorful hardbound cover and gold writing down the spine.� The binding is tattered and torn from so much use - a visual reminder of the hours I spent reading and looking at all the pictures.� The book was perfect for learning about God since it used simple story lines and big, beautiful illustrations to recount well-known bible stories. � My mom and I would read together before bedtime - that story book made the bible come to life!

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One of my favorite bible stories was about Noah's ark.� God saw how evil man had become, so He decided to send a great flood to cleanse the earth.� Since Noah was an honorable man, God commanded him to build an ark to keep his family and all the animals safe during the flood.� Noah's family and these animals would later repopulate the earth.� I loved the picture showing all the animals walking, two by two, into the ark.� The scene resembled a zoo parade with braying donkeys and roaring lions marching alongside huge elephants and exotic birds.� Turning the page, my eyes were drawn to the picture of a brilliant rainbow - God's reassuring promise that He would never flood the earth again. �

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After it rains and sunshine breaks through, I always look for God's rainbow.� As I get a glimpse of one with its' vivid colors arching across the sky, I think about what it symbolizes - a radiant reminder of God's faithfulness to His covenant. � "I have placed my rainbow in the clouds. It is the sign of my covenant with you and with all the earth."� (Genesis 9:13)� For me, that rainbow helps make trusting the bible a no-brainer; that spectacular sight brings His words to life!

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away."� Matthew 24:35�

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

What is your favorite bible story, and why?
Read about Noah in Genesis 6-9. What thoughts come to mind as you read this story?
Bible stories are helpful for learning biblical principles by observing Godly behavior in a narrative.� What life lessons could you learn from Noah's experiences?�

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

To begin the 40 Days in The Word series at Saddleback Church, Pastor Rick Warren led off with a question, "Why can I trust the bible?"� He goes on to explain why the bible can be trusted - it's been proven to be historically, scientifically, and prophetically correct.� The validity of scripture is also confirmed by Jesus himself in many books of the New Testament.� But for me personally, it's the transforming power of the bible that prompts me to trust in His words.� "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.� Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will."� (Romans 12:2) �

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Reading the bible should change our mind and inspire our actions to be more aligned with His perfect will.� And isn't that the fundamental objective of bible study anyway?� The bible, a national best seller, is an ultimate guide on how to conduct ourselves to become more Christ-like.� It is filled with stories that breathe life into God's word - providing living examples that illuminate moral character and righteousness through His presence and sovereign power.� We can't conveniently pick and choose to only believe passages that fall in line with our own way of thinking.� If that's the case, we're merely attempting to be God by rebelling against Him and His words.� Scripture commands us to actively work to transform, renew, test and approve God's pleasing and perfect will for our life.

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This anonymous quote provides an analogy between nature and the transforming power of scripture: "We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."� Likewise, we appreciate the attractiveness of Godly christian character, yet often neglect to acknowledge the transformation required to faithfully dwell in God's presence.� Do you trust in the bible?� Do you believe "the word of the Lord is right and true?"� (Psalm 33:4)� If your answer is yes, and you genuinely live according to biblical principles, be certain of this; those around you will notice the trust you place in the Lord.� You, too, will become a loving example of a life filled with Christ!

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MEMORY VERSE

"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly!"� Colossians 3:16

The Heartstrings of God

Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:00:00 GMT

ROMANCING MY HEART IN CLEVELAND.... BY DEBBIE, MINISTRY DIRECTOR

We traveled to Ohio to be with family over the holidays.� My son, Mark, experienced an authentic "White Christmas," and I was able to feel a familiar contentment that only family can provide.� The season was extra special this year;� not only was it a reunion of sorts (we hadn't all been together in several years), but my husband, Matt, and I were celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary, as well.� The Ritz-Carlton in Cleveland isn't exactly The Ritz in Maui, but Mark was thrilled to spend time with his cousins while Matt whisked me away to romance my heart!

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Some of the life's best surprises come when we least expect it, and our remarkable get-away was no exception!� The red carpet treatment began the minute our car pulled up to the entrance.� We were greeted by name, "Happy 25th Wedding Anniversary, Mr. and Mrs. Eaton," and welcomed in the same personal manner throughout the entire check-in process.� As we entered our room, an inviting basket of fresh fruits and goodies caught our eye.� The hand written note congratulating us on our anniversary just sweetened the experience.� I was amazed!� I didn't know one person there, but I never felt more special!� The wheels in my mind began to turn.� Do the women involved in my ministry exhibit the same welcoming hospitality of the Ritz staff as we interface with others?� Do we greet, love, and serve others following the example of Christ?� His love was sincere and designed to impact the lives of others;� that's what I want for women's ministry, too.

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If our love is to be used for His glory, it must also be sincere.� Godly love requires time, a commitment, and a devoted heart of servitude.� I mentally took note of my connections with others, and began challenging myself to be aware of the women that walk into my life.� I set out to have the eyes of Christ to notice any signs of personal distress.� Although I recognize I can't fix individual circumstances, I can listen and offer God's healing love through prayer. �

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Matt and I were no better than the next guest at the Ritz, but their staff was well trained in their handling of our stay. � We were made to feel special - and I know there are women I meet yearning to feel special, too.� Going forward, I commit to rolling out the red carpet of welcome to others.� I hope to intentionally influence women to be true disciples of Christ - obedient to His call of loving servitude.� I felt His presence - the gentle swell of Christ romancing my heart!

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Don't just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.� Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.� Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.� When God's people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality."� Romans 12:9-11, 13

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"Pattern yourselves after me, as I imitate and follow Christ."� 1 Corinthians 11:1

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

What thoughts come to mind when someone announces they have been given the "red carpet treatment?"
Debbie knew no one, but "never felt more special."� Name two things others do that make you feel special, too.
Discuss what it means to greet, love, and serve others following the example of Christ.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

I've had the pleasure of working with Debbie Eaton at Saddleback Church for the past two years.� Her dedication to the women's ministry is truly inspiring!� Her influence in my spiritual growth cannot be expressed in mere words.� Debbie is a wife and mother - just like me - so she understands the challenges of life that can hinder my efforts in being a true and faithful disciple of Christ.� Yet she continues to inspire me to forge ahead in reaching others - to be obedient to God's call of loving servitude - in that exact moment when life's circumstances lead my path to intersect with other women.

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Christ personifies love, and the bible is filled with stories illustrating how that love touched the lives of those He met.� Every story was different and each need unique, yet through His love, Christ made everyone feel special.� He met them exactly where they were in life!� My life isn't much different.� Although my story and needs may vary from friends and neighbors, God commands me to respond with Christ-like obedience - prompting me to extend the special warmth of Christian servitude as I greet, love, and serve others.� But to impact others, I need to know them - just as Christ truly knows me.� This amount of influence requires time, a commitment, and a devoted heart of servitude.� It requires a standard of discipline similar to the Ritz-Carlton personnel.� The staff knew their guests by name, acknowledged the significance of the occasion, and took the time to make Debbie feel special.� Get to know those around you; greet them by name, show appreciation for their circumstances, and humbly respond to their needs. � Experience the joy of Christ romancing your heart - and the hearts of those you meet!

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MEMORY VERSE

"But the Lord said to Samuel, "Don't judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."� 1 Samuel 16:7

Can You Hear Me Now? - Part 2

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:00:00 GMT

CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?....BY BLAKE, AGE 16

In religion class, the teacher assigned a creative piece.� He asked us to take an advertisement or TV commercial and modify it, quoting scripture, to publicize or promote religious principles.� I poured over magazines - confident I'd find the perfect print ad to use - but nothing seemed to fit.� Then it hit me!� I thought of the cell phone commercial on TV, you know the one where the test man roams the globe to confirm cellular strength with the now familiar line, "Can you hear me now?"� This was going to be fun - I'll make God the test man in my commercial! �

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I think casting God as the ultimate test man is perfect!� The strength of His voice is strong and steady - it can always be heard if you listen.� But after researching His voice for my project, I realized hearing God is only half of it.� We're supposed to pay attention to God's voice and do what it says.� Here's the scripture from James 1:22 to back me up:� "But don't just listen to God's word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves."� So I added a twist to the tagline for my commercial:� "Can you hear me now?� Great, but will you listen?"

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FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Listen, O heavens, and I will speak!��Hear, O earth, the words that I say!"� Deuteronomy 32:1

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"Joyful are people of integrity,�who follow the instructions of the Lord.� Joyful are those who obey his laws�and search for him with all their hearts.� They do not compromise with evil,�and they walk only in his paths. You have charged us�to keep your commandments carefully.� Oh, that my actions would consistently�reflect your decrees!� Then I will not be ashamed�when I compare my life with your commands."� Psalm 119:1-6

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"We must pay more careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away.� For if the message spoken by the angels was binding, and every violation and disobedience received its just punishment, how shall we escape if we ignore such a great salvation?"� Hebrews 2:1-2

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TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

What do you think about Blake's selection for a modified, religious TV commercial?
Talk about other ads or commercials that would be fun to re-make for promoting Christ to others.
"Can you hear me now?� Great, but will you listen?"� Are you willing to apply that tagline in your life?� If so, talk about practical ways to make your goal a reality.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

It's not much of a stretch to visualize God as the ultimate test man because He is everywhere - roaming the earth (the one He created, by the way), and reaching out to us through the prompting of the Holy Spirit, His own spiritual "cell service."� Scripture confirms God's intent on getting through to us.� The verse, John 14:26, states His design so eloquently: "But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you."� He calls out, "Can you hear me now," tenacious in His pursuit of us.

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In the book of Matthew, Jesus tells his followers to pursue the Father with faithful determination.� "Ask, and you will receive. Search, and you will find. Knock, and the door will be opened for you."� (Matthew 7:7)� Unfortunately, many people seek God's wisdom halfheartedly or as a last resort, oftentimes ignoring His advice all together.� Others don't stop pleading or praying long enough to listen for His Godly counsel.� Time and time again,� souls slip off course while forging ahead with their own agenda - forgetting that our sovereign Lord actually does know what He's talking about and does know what's best!� Yet, through the static of their disobedience, He patiently inquires again, "Can you hear me now?� Great, but will you listen?"�

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In Sarah Young's devotional book, Jesus Calling, she gives Christ a voice in prayer:� "I am with you and for you.� When you decide on a course of action that is in line with My will, nothing in heaven or on earth can stop you."� Quite simply, our lives can be less complicated and more rewarding if we would just take God's word for what it is:� the gospel truth.� Christ petitions us to stop merely listening and start obeying and doing His will.� Don't miss out on the most important call in your life - the one that will guide you to a heavenly future.� Listen earnestly for His voice and "follow the instructions of the Lord!� Joyful are those who obey his laws�and search for him with all their hearts."� (Psalm 119)

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MEMORY VERSE

"You guide me with your counsel,�leading me to a glorious destiny."� Psalm 73:24�

Can You Hear Me Now?

Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:00:00 GMT

BE STILL SO YOU CAN FEEL MY PRESENCE.... A STORY FROM MY LIFE

The call came at the worst possible time;� my son's car broke down right before I was leaving to drive football carpool.� Since my name was on the AAA membership, I needed to be with the car when it was towed to the garage.� I was already on a tight schedule - could this really be happening to me?!� So I did what most mom's do - I shifted gears and mentally made a new plan of attack.� I would rush to my son's aide, give him my car, and send him off to drive carpool for me.� Problem solved - calamity averted.

The tree-lined road was narrow where his car had stalled so, for safety's sake, I sat down in the concrete ditch near the back of the car.� It was a road infrequently traveled; the silence I encountered was broken only by the occasional sound of a passing car.� Then I heard an unfamiliar sound.� I listened more closely; perhaps the heavy breathing of a jogger approaching?� I stood up to look, but the road was vacant.� I heard it again and followed the sound with my ears -� looking up to see a small flock of birds overhead.� Only after hearing the sound while seeing the birds fly did I make the connection; it was the powerful flapping of their wings that had created that rhythmic sound.� I was awe struck - I had seen birds flying overhead a million times, but never before had I heard the pulsating sound of their wings.� It was beautiful and tantalizing - I was lured into a moment of deep reflection and appreciation for God's creative brilliance!

As is often the case in my life, well-planned days are disrupted by the pressing needs of my family.� I used to resent these intrusions until I came to terms with the realization they were an unstated aspect in my job description.� The luxury of unemployment at home allows me the opportunity to lovingly serve my family when they need it most.� Now when there is a distraction - or a potentially annoying snag in my schedule - I'm more likely to open my eyes and ears to the window of circumstance.� I anxiously wait to experience God's hushed, yet distinct, presence in that moment.� Sometimes it's nothing.� But more often than not, the moment is meaningful and significant - beautiful and tantalizing.

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"God saw all that he had made, and it was very good."� Genesis 1:31a

"The Lord is my shepherd;�I have all that I need.� He lets me rest in green meadows;�he leads me beside peaceful streams.

He renews my strength.� He guides me along right paths,�bringing honor to his name."� Psalm 23:1-3

"I meditate on all your works�and consider what your hands have done."� Psalm 143:5b

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

God created the heavens and the earth.� Talk about some of natures' more beautiful qualities.
Have you ever experienced a moment of quiet and heard an unfamiliar sound around you?� How did you respond?
Read the Memory Verse below and talk about what it means to you.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

"Be still, and know that I am God!"� Just saying this verse brings a sense of restfulness to my mind.� The simplicity of it causes me to pause - and do nothing - allowing deep reflection and calm confidence to fill my thoughts.� In a world of uncertainties, there's something magical about believing in the certainty of His sovereign power.� God's own words in scripture command us to merely "be still" -� to relax in the assurance that there is no substitute for reliance upon Him. �

In today's world of noise and technological distraction, it's becoming increasingly difficult to find time or space for total peace and tranquility.� Yet I'm not surprised that God opened a door of opportunity for me to experience His amazing capacity for creation.� I am surprised, however, in my ability to pause - and do nothing - long enough to be aware of nature's soft whisper to my ears!� These peeks into God's creative masterpiece bring blessings into my life.

Spiritual serenity often takes a back seat when difficult circumstances enter the picture.� It's easier to "be still" when life is going according to plan, but let's face it, it's more challenging to move forward with calm, spiritual assurance when adversity steps in and threatens our world - self-imposed or not!� Here's what Pastor Jason Jackson has to say about Psalm 46:10.� "So as your world crumbles around you, the call from Scripture is: don't flinch in faith in God. Stand still - not because of a self-made confidence, not because you are the most composed person in the face of disaster, not because "you've seen it all." Be still because of what you know about God." �

He's right there - always has been - supporting and strengthening us through His Fatherly love.

Stop, look, and listen.� If you allowed your thoughts to "be still", where would Christ be revealed in your life?� What captivating moments are within your reach - if only you opened the window of circumstance in your day? �

MEMORY VERSE

"Be still, and know that I am God!"� Psalm 46:10a

Get Rid of Sin

Thu, 17 Nov 2011 16:00:00 GMT

CHRISTMAS CLEAN-OUT.... BY BOBBY, AGE 7

My room will be spotless soon, because it's almost Thanksgiving - and we always clean our rooms between Thanksgiving and Christmas.� I mean really clean 'em!� Mom calls it the "get ready for Christmas clean-out."� She asks us to go through our closets and drawers - you know, pulling out clothes that don't fit anymore.� Then we look through the games and toys.� Mom says if we don't play with it, we should give it to boys and girls that don't have as much.� We box it all up and take it to our church.� There's a man there who knows all the kids that really need it.

At first, I didn't like choosing things to give away.� But now I don't mind.� I know that a clean and empty closet means more room for my Christmas presents!� But that's not all - I know the football jersey that's too small may be just right for some other boy.� I don't play with my power wheels racer track a lot, so I put it in the box with some cars and a bunch of other stuff.� Dad says there's a little boy out there whose eyes will light up when he sees my cool things!

Going through my closet isn't fun, but I like to help people.� When we took our stuff to church and gave it to that man.� He smiled and said, "Thank you," then he gave me a card with a bible verse:� "And don't forget to do good and to share with those in need. These are the sacrifices that please God." Hebrews 13:16� I smiled right back.� Yep, I don't mind the Christmas clean-out so much anymore because I know I'm sharing.� I know that pleases God, too!

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us."� Hebrews 12:1

"Look, I will come as unexpectedly as a thief! Blessed are all who are watching for me, who keep their clothing ready so they will not have to walk around naked and ashamed."� Revelation 16:15

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

The Christmas clean-out serves many purposes.� Name some of the benefits you can think of.
Often "things" pile up because we don't invest the time or energy to sort through it and get rid of it.� Removing sin from our life is kind of similar.� Are you hanging onto careless habits or bad behaviors that are unbiblical because you don't make it a priority to stop them?
Talk about the rewards of cleansing your life and heart from sinful choices.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Just ask my husband, Chris.� I am a confessed pack rat!� It's true - I hang onto more "stuff" than I care to admit!� I was raised in a home where we kept things instead of throwing it away.� Possessions tended to accumulate in piles.� Holding onto things isn't all bad - I mean, we didn't go buy something new because the old one was broken.� My dad was more inclined to fix it not replace it, and there is value in that principle, too.� However, there's a fine line between clutter and treasure - and I'm not always so effective at acknowledging the difference!�

This bible verse came to mind:� "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."� (1 Samuel 16:7b)� I couldn't help but think of my closet.� I don't think God cares what's in there.� I don't think He counts the clothes I don't wear, but He is attentive to my heart.� So I thought about my heart and possible clutter collecting there.� Have bad habits settled in where Godly traits should reside?� I reread Hebrew 12:1 above and asked myself:� What weight is slowing me down, or what sin easily trips me up?� Then I opened my heart in prayer and asked God to help me clean house!

I think I'll do the Christmas clean-out myself this year and throw in some spiritual cleansing, too.� Here's my plan:� I'll throw out one hurt with one shirt.� I'll eliminate undeniable sin along with the bin of useless belts.� I can picture it now - less clutter in my closet, more space in my heart for Christ!� I'll rearrange my thoughts to linger over the true meaning of Christmas - the miracle of His birth!� Oh, the joy of a clean closet!� Oh, the blessing of a cleansed heart! �

MEMORY VERSE

"We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin."� Romans 6:6

God Wants You!

Tue, 01 Nov 2011 17:00:00 GMT

WANTED:� MEN OF DISTINCTION.... BY NICK, AGE 18

I'm a freshman at UO this fall.� My parents took me to several colleges, but the minute I toured the Oregon campus -� I knew this was the place for me.� I hit the ground running in September and haven't looked back!� Being away at school is mostly what I thought it would be, but college life has had some surprises, too.� For starters - I joined a fraternity.� I didn't think the greek life was for me, but looking back, I think it was one of the best decisions I've made so far!

I didn't join a fraternity to get an "Animal House" experience.� I joined because I liked the other guys and what they stood for.� Everyone I met seemed committed to the mission statement:� learning to live lives of excellence through the core values of truth, courage, faith and power.� In my fraternity, accountability is fundamental; becoming a man of integrity is essential. �

Just like with different colleges, all fraternities have their unique style.� Becoming a Delt seemed to fit my personality and is in line with my Christian values.� Even their website page drew me in; Wanted:� Men of Distinction.� Meeting men of distinction sounded like a great plan to me -� and having them become my lifelong friends seemed even better!

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."� 1 Corinthians 15:33

"And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?� Is anything worth more than your soul?"� Matthew 16:26

"Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?"� 2 Corinthians 6:14

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Do you belong to a group or club like Boy Scouts, National Charity League, or a church youth group?� If so, talk about the core values of your group? �
Re-read 1 Corinthians 15:33 and discuss what it means to you. �
Our friends can have an impact on our thoughts and actions.� Should you make changes in the group you hang with?

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Jesus walked among the sinners of this world not to conform to their immoral ways, but in an attempt to change their deceitful hearts through his loving example.� In 1st Corinthians 11:1, scripture tells us:� "Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ."� We can't go back and alter the impact others have had on our lives, however helpful or harmful.� We can only look at where we've been and who we've become - using our experiences to learn from and grow beyond.� God wants us to flex our spiritual muscles to become more Christ-like, with our loving example drawing others to Him.

Dale Hanson Bourke wrote "Embracing Your Second Calling."� It's a woman's guide to finding passion and purpose for the second half of life.� Bourke begins with profound observations: "As it is for many women, the first half of my life was centered on family.� But I was also part of the generation that believed we could have it all, and many of us just about killed ourselves trying.� Here's what I am learning:� God wants us to spend the second halves of our lives worrying less about what we do and more about who we become."� The first half of life is often filled with accomplishments - physician, businesswoman, full-time mom, or teacher - just to name a few.� But in the hectic pace of bedtime stories or board meetings, have we paused to consider who we are according to Christ?� Who have you become by God's standards?

I couldn't help but think of my son, Nick.� He's most definitely in the first half of life and he's already got this part figured out - he's already making deliberate choices about who he becomes while educating himself for the future.� If there's a sign above the gates to heaven, it may very well read; Wanted:� Men and Women of Distinction Only!� I'm hopeful I'll see my loved ones and lifelong friends inside!

MEMORY VERSE

"Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm."� Proverbs 13:20

Count Your Blessings

Wed, 19 Oct 2011 17:00:00 GMT

COUNTING PENNIES, COUNTING BLESSINGS.... BY MADELYN, AGE 8

My grandpa fell and broke his hip.� They took him to the hospital right away, and it's a good thing they did!� When he had surgery for his hip, they found a tumor in his leg.� Grandma called my dad to talk about it.� She said it was cancer.� I don't know what kind grandpa had, but I know having cancer is not a good thing.� Dad flew to Texas to be with grandma and grandpa.� Mom held us close and asked us to say prayers for grandpa.

I have a jar of pennies in my room -� I collect them to bring me luck.� I asked mom if I could use my penny collection to buy a plane ticket to Texas.� I wanted to be there with grandma and grandpa.� Mom had a better idea -� she said I could use them to pray for grandpa.� So, I began to count my pennies while saying prayers for my grandpa.� Mom said my prayer pennies represent my love for grandpa and the blessings in my life.� �

Grandpa is home now and doing great.� Grandma says he's as ornery as ever!� The tumor is gone and the cancer is gone, too.� My prayer pennies will always remind me of grandpa - each penny was a prayer for my grandpa to get better.� I still collect them, but my prayer pennies are special - it's because they traveled to heaven and back in my prayers. �

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."� Matthew 6:19-21

"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money."� Luke 16:13

"But Jesus said, "Let the children come to me. Don't stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children."� Matthew 19:14

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

What emotion motivated Madelyn's desire to cash in her penny collection?
Counting pennies became a method of prayer.� Talk about different ways you could remember to pray daily.
God wants us to store up "treasures in heaven" not "treasures on earth."� Discuss what this means to you.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

It's a tender moment when a child offers to donate their savings to help others - convinced in naivety that their small contribution may quite possibly save the day.� Although touched by their generosity, piggybank savings aren't typically sacrificed for family travel.� In the story above, Madelyn was willing to cash in her penny collection to spend time with her grandparents.� Although unaware, her actions illustrate a basic biblical principle; relationships are more important than "the things that are in the world."� (1 John 2:15)

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The societal dilemma of wealth over relationships is related in scripture and still touches our lives today.� The familiar clich�, 'money can't buy happiness,' has been printed in varying forms, dating back to 1750, when Jean-Jacques Rousseau, a Franco-Swiss philosopher, wrote this proverb: 'Money buys everything, except morality and citizens.'� In 1899, economist Thorstein Veblen wrote:� "As average wealth rises, people grow richer but not happier."� More recently, USA Today ran an article in which a study found that materialistic couples may have more money, but they also have more relationship problems.� The study, published in an October issue of the Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, went on to say "couples who believe that money is not important scored up to 15 percent higher on marriage stability and other measures of relationship quality than materialistic couples."� Riches or relationships:� I think there's a lesson here. �

In Matthew 19:14, Christ's words reveal the value He placed on the companionship and love of a child.� Scripture prompts us to "become as humble as this little child" and live for the love of our heavenly Father, storing up treasures in heaven, instead of cherishing the things of this world.� With childlike obedience, we are to value and build relationships - with God and with others.� Pause and reflect:� Where are your greatest assets?� In the bank, or around the dinner table?� Invest in meaningful fellowship with God, your family, and friends - these relationships will far outlast your IRA.

MEMORY VERSE

"So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven."� Matthew 18:4

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Strike Three - You're Out

Tue, 11 Oct 2011 17:00:00 GMT

TRUTH OR CONSEQUENCES.... BY DYLAN, AGE 13

We have a rule in our house;� all cell phones come downstairs before bedtime.� My mom and dad don't want us talking or texting when we're supposed to be sleeping.� I can be pretty forgetful, but once in a while I use that as an excuse when I just don't feel like following the rules.� Sometimes that strategy works for me - the other night, it didn't.

My mom called up the stairs, "Does everybody have their phone downstairs?"� I just ignored her.� Then she specifically called out to me, "Dylan, I don't see your phone.� Please bring it down before you go to bed."� I said I would, but I was texting a friend, so I didn't.� That was mistake #1.� Just my luck, mom checked for phones again and mine wasn't downstairs.� I heard her coming up the steps, so I tried to hide my phone in the covers.� Her eye caught the soft glow of my screen as she opened the door.� You guessed it, that was my second mistake of the night.

Mom asked me to explain why I didn't listen to her, why I didn't bring my phone downstairs.� I told her that I just forgot.� But the time stamp on my texts proved I had been using my phone, so it was pretty obvious I had lied; I hadn't forgotten to bring it downstairs, after all.� Strike three - you're out!� That third mistake, which was actually a lie, is what got me in trouble� - getting caught in that lie is what cost me my phone.� My dad talks about being truthful or facing the consequences.� I'm learning to tell the truth, cause consequences are never fun.� I was miserable without my phone.

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"I will not allow deceivers to serve in my house, and liars will not stay in my presence."� Psalm 101:7

"A false witness will not go unpunished, and whoever pours out lies will perish."� Proverbs 19:9

"If someone claims, "I know God," but doesn't obey God's commandments, that person is a liar and is not living in the truth."� I John 2:4

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Sometimes admitting "I forgot" is a legitimate reason for our actions.� But lying is merely an excuse to avoid punishment, cause deception, or shift blame.� Discuss the difference between a legitimate reason and an excuse.
Dylan told a lie and got caught.� What do you think he should have done differently?
Being truthful is always the right thing to do.� Lying is just plain wrong.� Sooner or later, your lies will be found out and you will have lessened the trust people have in you.� Discuss the consequences of a broken bond of trust.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Truth or Consequences was an American game show that originally aired on NBC radio from 1940-1957.� In 1950, it was adapted for television and ran through 1988.� On the show, contestants were asked a trivia question.� If they failed to answer truthfully, they faced inescapable consequences - usually requiring their involvement in an embarrassing stunt.

Truth or Consequences had a long running history, but the concept originated long before the 1940's.� The awareness of truth and consequences is recorded in the bible.� Temptation is Satan's lure to sin, and it only took three chapters and six verses into Genesis before Adam and Eve chose to eat the forbidden fruit.� Sadly, they opted to ignore God's truth and act on their own desire, without pausing to consider the consequences.� It was man's great fall from grace, and their disobedience angered God. � Their punishment is outlined in Genesis 3, verses 14-19, while the remaining chapters of Genesis describe the painful stories of others - lives left destitute as a result of their sin.� �

Sin by nature - especially lies - has the capacity to become a way of life and sets in motion a repetitive, destructive cycle.� Often one lie leads to another, then another; until the line is blurred between fiction and truth.� The pressure to keep stories straight, so contradiction won't lead to consequence, has got to be exhausting!� In contrast, there's freedom in truth without the burden of memory.� Orange County Register columnist, Mark Whicker, sums it up best when he wrote, "Telling the truth means you don't have to remember anything."�

Model truthfulness in your life, and reward integrity in the lives of your children.� Learn from the lessons of Adam and Eve - opting, instead, to embrace God's truth and turn from selfish desire.� Don't allow dishonesty to obstruct your relationship with Christ - the consequences are eternal!

MEMORY VERSE

"The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth."� Proverbs 12:22

Lord, Lead Me Home

Wed, 05 Oct 2011 17:00:00 GMT

DARKNESS CAN LEAD US TO GOD'S LIGHT.. A Scene from the Movie, Apollo 13

Reporter: � Is there a specific instance in an airplane emergency when you can recall fear?�

Jim Lovell: �Uh well, I'll tell ya, I remember this one time - I'm in a Banshee at night in combat conditions, so there's no running lights on the carrier. It was the Shrangri-La, and we were in the Sea of Japan and my radar had jammed, and my homing signal was gone... because somebody in Japan was actually using the same frequency. And so it was - it was leading me away from where I was supposed to be. And I'm lookin' down at a big, black ocean, so I flip on my map light, and then suddenly: zap. Everything shorts out right there in my cockpit. All my instruments are gone. My lights are gone. And I can't even tell now what my altitude is. I know I'm running out of fuel, so I'm thinking about ditching in the ocean. And I, I look down there, and then in the darkness there's this uh, there's this green trail. It's like a long carpet that's just laid out right beneath me. And it was the algae, right? It was that phosphorescent stuff that gets churned up in the wake of a big ship. And it was - it was - it was leading me home. You know? If my cockpit lights hadn't shorted out, there's no way I'd ever been able to see that. So uh, you, uh, never know... what... what events are to transpire to get you home.�

The darkness of the cockpit allowed astronaut, Jim Lovell, to see the green trail of algae that led him home to safety.� Sometimes life is like that;� it's only when we find ourselves in the darkness of despair that we're able to see the light of our heavenly Father leading us home. �

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."� Joshua 1:9

"I have come as a Light into the world, so that whoever believes in Me [whoever cleaves to and trusts in and relies on Me] may not continue to live in darkness."� John 12:46

"Behold, God works all these things, twice, in fact, three times with a man, to bring back his soul from the pit, that he may be enlightened with the light of life."� Job 33:29-30

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Have you ever hit rock-bottom and thought there was no good way out of a bad situation?� If so, what did you do?
In scripture, the bible tells us over 150 times to trust God in times of trouble!� Do you turn to Him for comfort and safety?� If not, discuss ways you can apply faith when difficulties come your way.
Discuss events in your life that have brought you "home" - out of darkness and into His light.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Apollo 13 is a family favorite, so I've seen it more than a few times.� But the scene I recall above still captures and holds my attention every time!� Actor, Tom Hanks, does a great job of allowing us to experience the emotion of the moment.� His words and eyes convey deep reflection and appreciation - I always think he's close to breaking down, close to tears, when he says, "So uh, you, uh, never know... what... what events are to transpire to get you home." �

Chances are - I'll never experience the fear of a dark cockpit, but I, too, have faced some pretty difficult circumstances where I thought "about ditching in the ocean" - throwing in the towel and resigning myself to situational failure.� But instead, I drew upon His strength and watched my faith grow.� I especially connected with the illustration found in Beth Moore's book, Looking Up When Life Is Looking Down:� "Life can be hard and challenging, oftentimes prompting confusion, despair, and the feeling that God has abandoned you and there's no way out."� She goes on to say, "You can opt for God. (But) here's the deal:� God wants everything you've got.� Every egg in one basket.� This very moment He has His fingers gripped on your chin saying, 'Right here, Child.� Look right here.� I am your Deliverer.� There is none like Me.' "� Soothing, compassionate, and healing words for anyone needing a lighted path home!

We may all experience Lovell-like moments where we've lost our homing signal, everything shorts out, and we feel like ditching in our own sea of frustration. "But from there you will seek the Lord your God, and you will find Him if you seek Him with all your heart and with all your soul."� (Deuteronomy 4:29)� We, too, can be led safely home by reaching out to Christ in humble obedience.� But you don't need a crisis to petition the Lord; turn to Him when there's light in your life and enjoy the true comforts and safety of being home all along!

MEMORY VERSE

"Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path."� Psalm 119:105

Do As I Say - Not As I Do

Wed, 14 Sep 2011 17:00:00 GMT

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.... BY SARA, MOTHER OF THREE

My mother has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.� My dad died when I was twenty years old, so she's the only parent I have left.� I'll be honest, I'm not handling the news very well.� I am exhausted from the hours spent at the hospital, but my three boys are five, three, and eight months old.� At home it's a hands-on job when they're awake and active.� Some days it's all I can do to hold myself together - and a few times I haven't done that very well, either.� One day my emotions boiled over and I lashed out at my family.� Then I remembered the old clich�, actions speak louder than words, and I knew I didn't want my boys to think misdirected anger is an appropriate response to stress or fatigue. �

I try to teach my children important life lessons, but my boys learn just as much about life by watching my example.� Unfortunately, their little eyes and ears aren't very selective - they learn from bad examples as well as good ones.� They're too young to understand what's happening to Grandma, but they're old enough to see how I handle this stressful situation.� They're watching to see how I deal with sadness and distress.� I can't change the outcome of my mom's illness, but I can use her affliction to teach my children about compassion; how to be loving and supportive of each other during a family crisis.� I can also be an example of how to celebrate life in the midst of an uncertain future. �

My mom has been my biggest source of support and encouragement!� Yes, she continues to teach me by her example; being strong in her faith and filled with peace, knowing God is ultimately in control.� Mom reminded me of Jesus' calming words in John 14:24; "I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid."� Now there's a great life lesson to pass on to my boys! �

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."� Proverbs 22:6�

"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day."� 2 Corinthians 4:16

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Illness and affliction can cause stress and/or extreme sadness.� Talk about possible examples from your family life.
Sara saw an opportunity to teach her children about compassion.� What does compassion mean to you?
Pause a moment and say a prayer for God's healing touch to bring comfort to those who are sick or suffering.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Parenting is a demanding, yet rewarding, job!� An attentive parent wears many hats - physician, dietitian, counselor, and advocate.� But one of the most important roles of a parent is that of teacher.� We teach our children practical tools for life ranging from personal hygiene to effective study skills.� And let's not fool ourselves, they learn many lessons by watching, listening, and emulating us!� Children are like sponges; they soak up knowledge from the people and the world around them.� What behavior traits are they soaking up from you?� What lessons are your children learning by your example? �

Most of us are familiar with the words of writer and clergyman, Charles R. Swindoll:� "I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it."� But he goes on to share some equally profound personal conclusions about attitude.� "I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude.� The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.� It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.� When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me.� The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day."

Sara is working to change her attitude and choosing to use the emotions surrounding her mom's illness as a teaching opportunity for her boys.� She began to intentionally demonstrate peace, kindness, and compassion in the face of adversity.� So, if it's true "actions speak louder than words", we also need to be intentional about what our actions are saying to others, especially our children.� Are your actions a positive influence on the children in your life?� What life lessons are your children learning from you?� Need an attitude adjustment?� Open your bible and follow Christ's example.

MEMORY VERSE

"I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid."� John 14:24

One of God's Greatest Gifts

Tue, 06 Sep 2011 17:00:00 GMT

THE BLESSING OF UNANSWERED PRAYER.. BY RACHEL, AGE 10

Somehow I thought that if you wanted something really bad, all you had to do was ask God.� Come to find out, that's not exactly how it works.� See, it was the night before my birthday.� I was turning 10 - double digits - so it was a big deal for me!� I wanted to have a sleepover party, but my mom arranged for me to spend the night with my cousin instead.� I was really disappointed, so that night I prayed and asked God to work on my mom - you know, convince her that a sleepover party was still a good idea.

When my aunt brought me home the next day, I walked into the house and, "SURPRISE!"� The family room was filled with all my friends!� My mom had planned a surprise party for me - I could hardly believe it!� We played games, went swimming, and ate pizza, cake and ice cream - it was a ton more fun than the sleepover party I was planning.� I told my mom about my prayer.� She just smiled and said, "You know, Rachel, sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."

FROM THE BIBLE:�

"And even when you ask, you don't get it because your motives are all wrong-you want only what will give you pleasure."� �James 4:3�

"This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us."� 1 John 5:14

TABLE TALK WITH THE KIDS

Prayer is our way to talk to God, but have you ever used prayer for selfish reasons?� Explain.
Rachel prayed for a sleepover party.� How did her unanswered prayer turn out to be the best thing afterall?
God always knows what's best for us.� Read 1st John 5:14 again and explain what it means to you.

WHAT ABOUT ME?� LET'S DIG IN.

Country singer, Garth Brooks, has a song title, Unanswered Prayer.� I just love the chorus:� Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers.� Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs;� that just because he doesn't answer, doesn't mean he don't care.� Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

Sunday will mark the 10 year anniversary of the tragic events of 9/11.� The loss of lives in the air and on the ground will forever be marked in history.� But I was curious.� Were there survivors late to work or missing flights that had hastily pleaded with God to help get them there on time?� Did any of these survivors acknowledge Christ for saving their life that day?� I began a search and found Joyce Olver; a new flight attendant who should have been aboard American Airlines Flight 11.� The headline nearly jumped off the screen at me:� Stewardess who missed 9/11 flight credits God!

Joyce suffered a foot fracture on the job in April, 2001 - a 500 pound passenger had stepped on it.� It was September 10, 2001, and Joyce had just learned her injury would require surgery.� These are her words: "I was frustrated. I worked so hard to get through flight school.� On the way home, I started to talk to God. I said 'God, it's not fair. Why did you take my career away?'� Then a Bible verse came to mind that contained the words, "Acknowledge him, and he will direct thy paths."� In the midst of my frustration, the verse brought me comfort."� She concluded by saying that God was trying to tell her he had always brought her through her most difficult times.� Joyce looks at the events of 9/11 and recognizes the large number of people who didn't get to work on time.� She affirms her life was saved by an act of God, too.

I couldn't help but think of Garth's song:� Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.� Joyce acknowledged His protection in her life; what about you?� Has God's gift of unanswered prayer ever kept you from harm?� Yes, more often than not, unanswered prayer actually works to shield us.� God, in His great wisdom, protects us from hurting others, selfish greed, intoxicating power, or Satan's disguised lies.� Sometimes He even steps in and guards us from our own destructive tendencies.� Now be honest, has unanswered prayer ever protected you from yourself?�

Prayer is designed to express thankfulness and ask for God's blessing.� "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us."� (1 John 5:14)� Ah, did you catch that?� "If we ask anything according to his will, he hears us."� It's not our will, but His will!� Our prayers need to be in line with His will for our lives, not our own selfish pleasure, if we expect Him to hear us.� Change the way you talk to God; approach Him with a pure heart, acknowledge His sovereignty, and then relax - sometimes unanswered prayer is exactly what you need!

MEMORY VERSE

"In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths."� Proverbs 3:6