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Dear Saddleback Family, 

In last weekend's message, Pastor Tom Holladay taught us the four commitments you and your spouse must make to have a love that lasts a lifetime. As you go through your week, use the Message Action Plan below to help put the things you've learned into practice.

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HOW LOVE LASTS A LIFETIME
Marriage Renewal Weekend
June 13 and 14, 2015

You must keep on loving with all your heart.  1 Peter 1:22 (CEV)

1. Listen with All Your Heart
   
   Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.  James 1:19 (NLT)
   
   Make time every day to actively listen to your spouse without any distractions. Maybe it's while walking or having breakfast together. Whenever it is, it is an intimate time spent with your spouse. 
2. Forgive with All Your Heart
   
   Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.  Romans 15:7 (NIV)
   
   Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)
              
   Spend some time thinking about the difference between acceptance and forgiveness. Do you know your spouse's quirks? Do you accept her/him for who they are and not confuse that with hurtful behavior? Take the time know and accept your spouse for who God created her/him to be.
3. Be Humble with All Your Heart
   
   Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves . . . Philippians 2:3 (NASB)
   
   Ask yourself if you are unselfish in all your actions towards your spouse. Then ask your spouse if she/he feels that you treat her/him with humility. Be prepared to hear some tough feedback.
4. Love God with All Your Heart
   
   "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." Mark 12:30(NIV)
   
   It's important to spend time with God (prayer and studying His word) so that the interactions with your spouse are founded on God's strength and not pride. Try spending five minutes in quiet time with God every day this week.