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How to Let Go of a Heartache

Holding onto heartache can be like an anchor around your neck, holding you down and keeping you from moving forward. This weekend, Buddy Owens will teach on How to Let Go of a Heartache. This powerful message on forgiveness will change how you handle heartache and loss. Join us at a campus near you.

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Dear Saddleback Family, 

Use the Message Action Plan below to help put the things you learned this weekend into practice. If you missed last weekend's message, click here to watch it online.


HOW TO LET GO OF A HEARTACHE
Buddy Owens
October 24-25, 2015

"You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Matthew 5:43-48 (NIV)

FOUR KINDS OF LOVE:
Storge = parental love, family love
Eros = romantic love of a man with a woman,
Phileo = friendship, love between closest friends, brotherly love
Agape = unconquerable benevolence, generosity, and kindness; invincible goodwill

AGAPE LOVE BEGINS AS AN ACT OF THE WILL.

"Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you." Luke 6:28 (NIV)

" 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."   Romans 12:17-21 (NIV)

"Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Matthew 5:48 (NIV)

Perfect = teleios: total, complete, mature

ACTION PLAN: Make a decision to love those you don't like. Think of someone you may feel is unlovable and pray for them each day this week during your quiet time.

WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, GROW UP!

"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector." Matthew 18:15-17 (NIV)

"Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, 'Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?'
"Jesus answered, 'I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.' " Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)

"Love keeps no record of wrongs." 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NIV)

ACTION PLAN: This week, think about an offense that was committed against you for which you still hold a grudge and choose to let it go. 

FORGIVENESS IS A LIFESTYLE.

"Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

"The servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

 "But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded.

"His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.'

"But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.

"Then the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' In anger his master turned him over to the tormentors to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart." Matthew 18:23-35 (NIV)

ACTION PLAN: Take time this week as you ask God for forgiveness to remember how many times he has forgiven you before and consciously forgive someone who has offended you, even if they didn't ask for forgiveness. 

HOW CAN I LET GO OF A HEARTACHE?

GIVE IT TO GOD.
"Apart from me, you can do nothing." John 15:5 (NIV)

"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13 (NIV)

CHANGE YOUR MIND.
"Be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (NIV)

PRAY FOR THEM
"Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you." Luke 6:28 (NLT)

ACTION PLAN: For the next thirty days, begin a lifestyle of forgiveness by letting go of past hurts that you may have been carrying. Ask God daily to free you from any anger, pain, or regret that has been a barrier to your relationship with God and His people.

How to Let Go of a Heartache
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